Recent hang out with old friends got me thinking about girl friends and different friendships we’ve shared through out the years. How obsessed we used to be with categorizing and labeling those – bff, second bff, just a normal friend…
Each position held certain privileges and obligations, much like choosing different cable packages. But do friendships really have to be so defined? Do you really have to have just one or two best friends at most, to who you talk daily if not hourly and need to know every step each takes, because if not, your bff status is instantly degraded to merely a good friend?
Girls can survive without a boyfriend, but they can’t survive without friends.
It’s interesting to look back and think about all people we met through out the time. Elementary school, high school, college, work, we find and make friends practically everywhere. Each relationship you braid is different, each holds this unique silent agreement of how it will function, each totally unique. And with time, you realize that’s okay and the only right way. You don’t need to conform to social rules hierarchy.
The best friend can be someone to whom you speak only few times a month and don’t know every aspect of their life. It can also be more than just one! You don’t even need one. Why label friends when all that’s really important is being together, have a good time and be there for each other when one’s in need.
I for one, am happy and grateful to have many different girls as my friends. Some very close ones and some a bit less. To some I speak only few times a year, to some more than few times a week. It doesn’t mean they’re my friends any less.
At the end of the day, friendships are not meant to be a competition for people’s attention. And after all these years, we still find time for each other. We may not see eye to eye on everything, we may not see each other every day, but when we do is great!